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If your child has big feelings, big outbursts, or mood swings that seem to come out of nowhere—you are so not alone. More importantly: you're not failing. You're raising a human.

In Hold On to Your Kids, Dr. Gabor Maté and Dr. Gordon Neufeld offer a refreshing, compassionate take on parenting that doesn’t rely on control, consequences, or quick fixes. Instead, it’s all about connection—the kind that helps your child feel safe enough to calm down, open up, and grow into themselves with confidence.

This isn’t your typical discipline book. It’s a mindset shift. One that says: “Let’s stop managing behavior—and start healing what’s underneath it.”

🧡 Best for parents and caregivers who...

• They are exhausted from trying to “fix” their child’s meltdowns or mood swings
• Want to understand the why behind tough behavior
• Feel stuck, guilty, or unsure of what their child really needs
• Are ready to parent with more empathy, less power struggle, and a whole lot more heart

💛 Best for kids who...

• Have big emotions and aren’t always sure what to do with them
• Struggle with frustration, anxiety, sensitivity, or emotional overwhelm
• Might be neurodivergent, highly sensitive, or just wired a little differently
• Need more connection than correction—and a caregiver who truly “gets it”

🧠 Why It Helps:
Dr. Maté and Dr. Neufeld draw from decades of neuroscience, attachment theory, and real-world parenting to show that emotional regulation begins in relationship. This book helps you shift from trying to control your child’s reactions to becoming the calm, connected presence that helps them co-regulate. It’s not about doing more—it’s about connecting more deeply.

💡 Gentle Ways to Start:

• Don’t try to change everything overnight—connection builds in small moments
• Use eye contact, warmth, and empathy to help your child feel emotionally safe
• Practice “pause and listen” instead of “react and correct” when big feelings show up
• Pair this book with mindfulness, journaling, or calm-down rituals for extra support

  Hold On to Your Kids is the book you reach for when sticker charts and timeouts aren’t cutting it—when your gut tells you there’s a gentler way to raise strong, emotionally healthy kids. And spoiler: there is.